At the core of every human being is the potential to heal oneself.
Some of us are not aware that this possibility exists within us, while others live their lives feeling depleted, caught in cycles of low self worth, and bound by their past.
Through exploration, curiosity and mindful observing we can slowly take the steps towards creating a stronger foundation on which to heal, transform and grow. Through this we can begin to embrace the freedom to truly experience joy, abundance and a deeper sense of personal fulfilment.
Mentalizing is a skill that we innately use on an everyday basis to help us connect with others within our social world. It is an insightful understanding of our own thoughts, feelings, beliefs and actions while at the same time allowing us to have a good sense of what is going on for others.
As human beings we are constantly on some level attempting to tune into the world around us. We are consciously and unconsciously trying to make sense of others, whether it be through facial expressions, tone of voice or behaviour. This social skill helps us to identify what or who is safe and what is not. It is the foundation on which we build human relationships.
"Attachment is a deep and enduring bond that connects one person to another across time and space" Bowlby 1969
For some of us mentalizing can become difficult in certain situations. For those of us who have lacked secure attachments growing up or who have suffered trauma in our earlier years our capacity to mentalize can be limited.
We may feel emotionally distressed more often and struggle to regulate our emotions. We can be easily triggered on an unconscious level by people and situations which may result in us feeling angry and hurt and not know why.
This can be very confusing and cause us to avoid situations or react in ways that we may later regret. Feelings of distrust and being misunderstood can arise and lead us to seek out dysfunctional coping strategies in an attempt to calm ourselves down to make us feel better. Psychological/physical issues may develop as a result such as depression, anxiety, addiction and disordered eating.
Over time we may have learned to disconnect from ourselves and those around us in attempt to keep ourselves safe, as trying to make sense of ourselves and others proves too difficult.
"Your vision will become clear only when you can look into your own heart. Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside ,awakes".
MBT is an evidence based psychodynamic therapy, initially designed by Bateman and Fonagy to treat individuals suffering from Emotionally Unstable personality disorder. The concept of mentalizing draws its root from early attachment theory.
It is now being more widely used to treat :
It's aim is to improve an individuals capacity to mentalize allowing them to develop a much deeper
understanding of themselves and others.
By focussing on difficult current life situations one will experience the opportunity to explore their own thoughts, emotions and behaviours while considering what might be going on for the other.
As our capacity to mentalize develops we can reflect on our own behaviour and have the skill to understand why others behave the way they do.This allows us to relate to ourselves and others in a more compassionate and empathic manner which over time allows us to develop more stable and meaningful relationships with others in our lives.
"Emotional Freedom Technique is the “Perfect bridge between cutting edge Western medicine and ancient healing practices from the East”
by Nick Ortner, Tapping Solution.
Emotional freedom Techniques otherwise known as EFT or Tapping is an alternative treatment for physical pain and emotional distress.
Similar to acupuncture and acupressure, its principles are rooted in ancient Eastern meridian energy systems. When the bodies natural flow of energy becomes blocked or disrupted through trauma, stress or illness our bodily systems can fall out of balance often resulting in physical pain and/or mental and emotional issues such as low mood, fearfulness, anxiety, disordered eating and addiction.
Instead of using pressure or using needles to stimulate the meridian pathways it simply involves the tapping of specific meridian points on the head, face and upper body while focussing on a psychological issue.
It is a safe and non invasive treatment and can be used on both adults and children and can be adapted to most situations. EFT with children can be fun and imaginative.
It is through this approach we are able to get to the root or foundation of the problem and discharge the unwanted emotion stuck in the body while reorganizing the electrochemical signals that are sent to the brain. Through this process we can then begin to rewire and re programme how the brain and the body act or react to various stimuli and triggers that may normally have caused us mental/emotional distress or unwanted memories.
Research has also shown that that tapping reduces the production of cortisol (stress hormone) which is produced when we are stressed, frightened or anxious.
This was helpful for our ancestors when as humans we needed to fight and flee when necessary in order to keep us safe. In modern day life however this ancient part of our brain tends not to know the difference between being chased by a tiger, attending a job interview or going out on a first date!
If our bodies are constantly switched on to the fight, flight or freeze setting, chances are that cortisol is being produced more than it should be causing havoc to our mind/body. If produced excessively over a long period of time, we can be faced with a number of issues causing impairment to our sleep, digestive, heart, immune systems and sexual dysfunction.
EFT can be used to treat:
It is not necessary for you to know what is causing the difficulties for EFT to work, nor do you have to relive distressing events to work on reducing the effects of the root cause.
Recent research shows that just thinking positively about something may not be enough. The reason being that our sub conscious minds are continually running old programmes downloaded from our childhoods. How many of us want to move forward in life, travel somewhere on a plane, start a new buisiness, a new relationship or even apply for a new job but feel stuck and can’t seem to take that step required to get there. Our conscious mind despite all attempts to carry things through lose the battle with our much stronger sub conscious mind.
EFT has been proven time and time again to help clients get in touch with these old programmes that keep us stuck, reduce the emotional intensity around them and help to build new positive beliefs that allow us the freedom to move more comfortably and successfully through life with a new sense of confidence and self belief.
EFT Combines meridian work with psychological interventions for a truly holistic approach to health and has been known to produce impressive results!
"I have received treatments from Claire for a couple of my difficulties/ issues. On each occasion I found Claire to be completely professional in her approach and her delivery of information about what would be involved in our sessions was clear and precise so that I understood exactly how we would be working together. Claire was very friendly, approachable and calm which therefore immediately put me at ease and made each treatment an enlightening, enjoyable and very beneficial experience. Claire taught me techniques to use myself when I need to. I would certainly attend Claire again in the future and I would definately recommend Claire to my family and friends as a very beneficial practitioner"
"I wasn't performing as well as I wanted to in work because of anxious feelings, and I hoped Claire might be able to help. After seeing her, I felt much better, and she has helped me excel in my work. Thank you Claire!"
"My 8 year old son attended for sessions with Claire as he was terrified to step onto an escalator.
He would always have to take the lift or we'd have to look for stairs!
After a session with Claire he manages the escalator with no problems at all.
We can't believe it. So impressed and she was so great with him.
He also found it fun and now uses his tapping for other worries.
Can't thank her enough"
"I met with Claire to get support with symptoms of anxiety which I had been struggling with for a few months. Claire introduced me to EFT which has been hugely beneficial. The skills Claire has taught me as a way of coping, I now use on a regular basis. This has allowed me to progress in both my personal and professional life.
I would highly recommend working with Claire. Instantly, Claire’s warm and friendly nature made me feel at ease and allowed me to focus on my anxieties and learn new ways of managing these"
"I have spent most of my career disproportionately anxious about public speaking but now, with Claire’s help, I am still anxious but appropriately so. I cannot recommend EFT enough because I no longer feel almost disabled by my anxiety about talking to a large audience of people".
"I had a session with Claire just after I had been diagnosed with breast cancer and told I would require a mastectomy. Claire helped me explore some of the anger and fear I was experiencing in a safe and supportive environment, teaching me techniques I could use at home and Ieaving me with a greater sense of balance and well-being than I could have expected. The next few months were not easy, but my session with Claire changed the way I felt about it and helped me look to the future with optimism"